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Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor.

"...survivors, like you sharing their truth is what is needed to educate people and put a stop to grooming and sexual abuse.

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(937) 241-7136

Creating a voice as a male sex abuse survivor.

"...survivors, like you sharing their truth is what is needed to educate people and put a stop to grooming and sexual abuse.

Reserve Now

(937) 241-7136

A Voice for the Voiceless

John-Michael Lander created a Voice for the Voiceless.

Through writing, speaking, and consulting, he helps individuals and organizations identify the signs of grooming, manipulating, and stigmatizing of sexual abuse and how to help survivors (of any type of abuse) face the past and find their true self.

About Me

Building Connections

Workshops and Keynotes

Building Connections

As a 14-year-old Olympic Bound Athlete, the adults entrusted with my training, groomed and trafficked me into silence, causing the most exciting time of my life to be filled with shame and guilt while I still went on to win gold medals at the Norway and Danish Cups.

Through my experiences I developed the Predatory Grooming Trifecta© which demonstrates how the predator grooms the organization first, the parents second, and then the child, which allows the predator to go undetected for years.

After publishing my books, Surface Tension and Cracked Surface, I dedicate myself to bringing my message to conferences around the world. Whether as a keynote speaker or a workshop leader, I break through the myths and boundaries of Predatory Grooming, Long-term Effects of Sexual Abuse, and Surviving.

Webcasts

Workshops and Keynotes

Building Connections

As a certified Trainer and Life Coach with the Self-Talk Institution, I will speak with your team, organization, or school about the importance of changing how you think and the programs that we have created for oursleves. "If you can change your Self-Talk, you can change your Program. If you change your Program, you can change your Life." Some of the programs available are: * Are Your Thoughts Killing You?

* The Predatory Grooming Trifecta©

*Change the Myths--Change your Life.

Workshops and Keynotes

As a speaker and innovator, I will bring new life and connection to your next event. Contact me, and we can design a workshop or presentation that fits the needs that you have today.

As a certified Trainer and Coach for the Self-Talk Insitute I provide talks and workshops

for:

* Survivors

* Athletes

* Businesses

* Weight Loss

* Direct Marketing

* Personal Growth

I provide training and presentations:

* Predatory Grooming Trifecta©

* Predatory Internet Grooming© (PIG) and PIG Patrol©

* Male Trauma Bonding

* Locker Room Talk

* Are Your Thoughts Killing You

* Inflammation

* Long-Term Effects of Sexual Abuse

* Positive Self Talk

Additional Information

Embrace the Future

John-Michael battled with finding his true self and authentic voice. As an athlete, he endured sexual abuse from coaches, benefactors, and medical team which resulted in years of PTSD, depression, anxiety, and even suicide attempts. His research, The Grooming Trifecta, provides how grooming effects everyone no matter their sexual orientation, gender, or religious beliefs.

Self-Talk with John-Michael Lander

Self-Talk with John-Michael Lander , where we can change our thoughts and change our lives.

Contact me for a FREE Coaching session.

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more information:

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Your Shield Against Online Abuse with the SocialProtect App

In the vast digital universe, imagine a guardian that shields you from online abuse and extends its protection to those who follow you. SocialProtect is more than an app; it's a lifeline in the ever-evolving landscape of social media, a sanctuary for those who have faced the harrowing cycle of virtual abuse.
As a former elite diver, I deeply understand the toll of social abuse on the world stage. Today, as an advocate, I've weathered my share of negative comments on social media. SocialProtect, a real-time app powered by advanced technology, emerged as my armor against online toxicity. Now, checking my posts is no longer daunting, as SocialProtect App ensures I don't see abusive content while safeguarding those who follow me from exposure to hate and offensive language.
This app is for social media users with publicly viewable pages, ranging from professional sportspersons and journalists to corporate figures, students, parents, etc. It's a shield for anyone engaged in public interactions where fans and the broader public are part of the conversation.
SocialProtect APP employs cutting-edge technology to monitor public accounts, swiftly identifying and deleting racial, sexual, or offensive language. It acts as a vigilant sentinel, searching for abusive terms, spambots, or scams and deleting harmful comments in real-time, creating a secure space for you and your followers.
Begin your path to a more secure digital existence by
1. Download SOCIALPROTECT in the App Store or Google Play.
2. Use CODE: JML2024 to access the Premium Version which includes a comprehensive Education Hub.
3. Exclusive tip, CODE: JML2024 grants you FREE access until January 31, 2024!
For more information, contact me.
Video: https://www.facebook.com/lucas.lander.14/videos/905975824450836
LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/company/socialprotect/

More information:
https://socialprotect.world/

Facebook

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Talk with John-Michael

Podcast

Guest: Lily Sanders Tese
October 15, 2025 @ 1pm EST

SurvivorSpace:

Replay: https://youtu.be/miHkkLvwJmk

To learn more about Lily, visit her webpage: https://lilysanders.live/

Lily Sanders Tese- {Author, Screenwriter, Podcaster}

Lily’s journey into professional writing began with her award-winning book, 'Truth to Triumph'. Springboarding into major media TV, she was featured on ABC-NY Eyewitness News, Newsmax, FOX, CBS, NBC, iHeart Radio, and more… myth-busting the common beliefs about domestic violence. She considers ABC's Bill Ritter a respected mentor.

But today, Lily is paving her way as a film and TV writer, creating entertainment that awakens hearts and evokes loving, social change. Her newest drama pilot for TV is already winning awards and is currently under consideration. Lily is dedicated to creating entertainment that brings real and raw stories that can speak the truth in love, without sacrificing honesty and peace.

Lily is excited to share the pre-launch of her new podcast, “Up Until Now,” which will reflect testimonies that can speak truth into people’s lives.

https://www.youtube.com/@Up_Until_Now

Listen to other Guests:

https://anathletessilence.com/talk-with-john-michael

Mary Jo Ross

Michael Skinner

Gina Cavallo

Becky Perkins

John-Michael Lander (Flipping the Script)

Cheryl Hunter

Ronald Howie

Dr. Kelli Palfy

Ena Lucia Mariaca Pacheco

Steven Procopio

Keri Carter

Dale Lykins

Lori Klens

Amy B. Chesler

John Callas

Dr. Viktor Paul Giangrasso

Upcoming Speaking Engagements

JuST Training Conference

This unforgettable and inspiring conference features today’s most pressing issues in the anti-trafficking field. Presentations and workshops will focus on skill-building, survivor experiences, cross-discipline collaboration, task force development, case studies and lessons learned. The JuST Conference continues to stand by the motto that each person has a role to play in preventing and ending commercial sexual exploitation and that a collaborative community response is critical. Whether you are just getting started or have been working on the issue for years, we have something for everyone.

JuST Conference 2025 - JuST Conference

I am presenting:

Tuesday, October 14, 2025: Predatory Grooming Trifecta© and Truth, Trauma, and Transformation: Developing and Delivering Services for Male Survivors of Trafficking

Wednesday, October 15, 2025: Are Your Thoughts Killing You? A Survivor Led Workshop for Survivors

San Jose, California

JuST Training Conference

October 28-29, 2025

Ohio athlete’s Olympic dreams shattered after he says traine

December 19, 2024, at the Metro Park Pavillion, Toledo, Ohio

True Crime & Hollywood

Flipping the Script with John-Michael Lander & Celene Beth Olsen - True Crime & Hollywood: A Personal Tale | Podcast on Spotify

I flipped the script and interviewed Celene Beth Oslen on her podcast.

Article for SurvivorSpace.org

The Impact of Common Phrases and Jargon in Supporting Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Trafficking

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/common-phrases/index.html

Gina Cavallo: “I hear this a lot and it’s without question upsetting and probably more so when I hear, ‘It wasn’t your fault.’ During another situation, I was told, ‘Well, you can’t blame yourself for the choices you made back then.’ REALLY!!!”

Recent Interviews

HOUSE TALK PREGAME w/Dr. Lauren Pitts & Ronnie Ransome, Jr. - Season 4 Episode 131

Streamed live on Sep 2, 2023 HOUSE TALK PREGAME w/Dr. Lauren Pitts & Ronnie Ransome, Jr.

PREDATORY GROOMING IN SPORTS! Guest(s): John-Michael Lander Overtime, the inappropriate comes to feel normal. Grooming and abuse can occur at any level in any sport, whether that's with amateur players or elite athletes. Although most people think of children as being groomed, anyone at any age can be a victim of grooming. It’s Episode 131 on HT and you don’t want to miss a powerful and information packed lineup with Hosts – Sports Family Therapist Dr. Lauren Pitts and former Scholar-Athlete & Licensed Professional Counselor, Ronnie Ransome, Jr., with special guest former Olympic diving contender and sexual abuse survivor – John Michael Lander. Tune in to hear the HT Pregame discussion Saturday, September 2, 2023, at 11 am on YouTube, Facebook, Apple Podcast and Spotify! Don’t forget to subscribe to our YouTube channel in case you miss us live!

(273) HOUSE TALK PREGAME w/Dr. Lauren Pitts & Ronnie Ransome, Jr. - Season 4 Episode 131 - YouTube

14 Year-Old Athlete’s Life Shattered Survivor John-Michael Lander

Survivor's Stories with Shawn Attwood

(273) 14 Year-Old Athlete’s Life Shattered Survivor John-Michael Lander - YouTube

John-Michael Lander: An Athlete's Silence

What Came Next with Amy B. Chesler

Amy B. Chesler
Author • Podcaster • Advocate
http://amybchesler.com
http://www.facebook.com/amybchesler
http://www.amazon.com/author/ABChesler
http://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-chesler
IG: @amybchesler • Twitter: @amybchesler
Working for Justice: https://amzn.to/3sa50Gf
What Came Next:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-came-next/id1674051643

TIME

Congress Re-Introduces Bill to Protect Kids From Online Sexual Abuse. Here’s What to Know

BY SOLCYRE BURGA

APRIL 23, 2023 2:40 PM EDT

I was quoted in this article.

Congress Re-Introduces to Fight Online Child Sexual Abuse | Time

SurvivorsSpace.org

I have the honor to contribute the following content to

SurvivorSpace SurvivorSpace - A Safe Place for Survivors of Sexual Abuse to Heal

Videos:

· John-Michael Lander’s Story

John-Michael's Story - Survivor Space

(81) SurvivorSpace: John-Michael Lander's Story - YouTube

· Predatory Internet Grooming

What is Predatory Internet Grooming? - Survivor Space

(81) SurvivorSpace: Predatory Internet Grooming (John-Michael Lander) - YouTube

· Male Trauma Bonding

What is Male Trauma Bonding? - Survivor Space

(81) SurvivorSpace: Male Trauma Bonding (John-Michael Lander) - YouTube

· The Challenge of Forgiveness

The Challenges of Forgiveness - Survivor Space

(87) SurvivorSpace: The Challenges of Forgiveness (John-Michael Lander) - YouTube

Articles:

· Breaking the Mirror: Understanding and Overcoming Male Body Dysmorphic Disorder--with Dr. Viktor Paul Giangrasso

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/breaking-the-mirror/index.html

· The Impact of Common Phrases and Jargon in Supporting Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Trafficking

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/common-phrases/index.html

· Thought vs. Thinking: A Journey into the Depths of Self-Understanding

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/thoughts-vs-thinking/index.html

· Stained Victory

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/stained-victory/index.html

· Fear Causes Closed Mindedness

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/fear-causes-closed-mindedness/index.html

· Self-Revictimization

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/self-revictimization/index.html

· Owning Your Story

Owning Your Story (shorthandstories.com)

· Who Are We?

Who Are We? (shorthandstories.com)

· To Tell or Not to Tell: That is the Question

To Tell or Not to Tell: That is the Question (shorthandstories.com)

· Therapy: Each survivor’s experience is unique, and so is their healing journey

Therapy (shorthandstories.com)

https://survivorspace.shorthandstories.com/therapy/index.html

· “Forgiveness”

Forgiveness (shorthandstories.com)

· “Pets & Sexual Abuse Survival”

Pets & Sexual Abuse Survivors (shorthandstories.com)

· “Survivors’ Long-Term Effects of Inflammation due to Negative Self-Talk”

Survivors’ Long-Term Effects of Inflammation due to Negative Self-Talk (shorthandstories.com)

· “Male Trauma Bonding”

Male Trauma Bonding (shorthandstories.com)

· “Child Sexual Abuse, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation Crisis for Males”

Child Sexual Abuse, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation Crisis for Males (shorthandstories.com)

· “Predatory Grooming Trifecta”

· Dysregulation & Male Survivors

Dysregulation & Male Survivors (shorthandstories.com)

· Dissociation & Male Survivors

Dissociation & Male Survivors (shorthandstories.com)

· My Story

My Story (shorthandstories.com)

· Predatory Internet Grooming

Predatory Internet Grooming (shorthandstories.com)

· Why Men Don’t Report Sexual Abuse: One Survivor’s Perspective

Why Men Don't Report Sexual Abuse (shorthandstories.com)

· Survivor’s Long-Term Effects of Inflammation due to Negative Self-Talk

Survivors’ Long-Term Effects of Inflammation due to Negative Self-Talk (shorthandstories.com)

Short Documentary created by Barbara McCabe

A short documentary by award winning director, Barbara McCabe

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G4KxcHettQ0

This short documentary was created by the award winning director, Barbara McCabe for the Cheryl Hunter Group cherylhunter.com

NBC 4 Columbus with Cyn Rossi

John-Michael Lander met with NBC4 to talk about how parents are the only line of defense for a child athlete. He explained lies predators will tell parents and coaches, and crucial decisions parents face as they weigh their child's specialness against red-flag warnings.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sr_QKjwlNKo